How to be a happy
by Tash Hughes of
It’s the most
important day of your life, right? And all the important
people in your life will be there with you, won’t they?
So what is the
secret of making your wedding special and a day that you
Leading up to the
day, you plan and prepare so that everything is done the
way you like it – the right shade of flowers, the
perfect dress, the best hair style, a seating plan that
suits everyone, and so on. Those little details are
important in making the day what you want it to be.
But when it comes
to the actual day, forget the details! If you notice the
florist gave you cream instead of off-white roses,
smile; if there aren’t enough bows for the church pews,
shrug it off; if the groom changed his mind and wears a
different tie, laugh with him.
If you have planned
well, there won’t be many things that will be different
to your expectations anyway so just let them go. No one
else is going to notice or care so why should you let it
upset your day?
It’s part of life
that things can go wrong. But are you the only person
who can fix those problems? Of course not!
The day I got
married, I just decided that someone else would fix any
problems and I could focus on having a good day.
Everybody at our wedding was a close friend or family
and any one of them would have done anything to help so
I trusted everything to be cared for.
And for the record,
nothing serious happened! A few people helped tip out
ice from the champagne tub in the garden (a detail we
had forgotten about!) before heading to the reception,
and that was it!
And let’s face it –
we have bridesmaids for a reason other than to look
pretty in the photos. The bridal party is there to
support and help the bride and groom so if something has
to be done, let them fix it while you focus on the day.
It’s better the bridesmaid misses the photos or the
bridal waltz than the bride!
Ok, your wedding is
important. Nobody will deny it and it is worrying about
the details that makes the day special.
But don’t put too
much pressure on yourself.
Think about it – is
your wedding day the only important day of your life?
Other important days include having children, your 10th
wedding anniversary, your children starting school, your
grandmother’s 90th birthday, a loved one
recovering from surgery and achieving something special
like a graduation or starting a business.
If you believe this
is the only and most important day in your life, then
you are pressuring yourself and will find it hard to
relax and actually experience your wedding day.
really important event is marrying the man you love and
the wedding is a celebration of that event. Keep that
perspective and you’re bound to make it a day worth
By trusting your
loved ones to help you have a great day and forgetting
all those little details, you are giving yourself
permission to have fun!
And if you’re
having fun, it’s easier for everyone around you, like
photographers, MCs, hairdressers and your groom. If
those people are enjoying their work and finding you
easy to deal with, they will do their job better, too.
I had a ball on my
wedding day – and it shows in all the photos where I am
smiling and laughing. Much nicer than some posed photos
where the bride is frowning over some forgotten detail!
To be practical and
move away from the actual day, what do you want to
remember in five or ten year’s time? Do you want to look
back and see the right shade of pink flowers? Or do you
want to remember the love, warmth and happiness of the
A happy bride makes
everyone around her smile and enjoy themselves, and
remember the day fondly. And that will make your wedding
truly special so enjoy it!
Tash Hughes is
a professional writer and an incurable romantic! In
between romantic gestures, she runs
Word Constructions so she can
solve writing problems for all business people. Tash
regularly writers, letters, webcopy, media releases,
articles, newsletters and marketing documents.